There is no question that this can be tough. If it was easy, we wouldn’t be pondering or contemplating…we would just do it.
There can be a myriad of reasons why relationships fall apart or grow stale. Chances are, however, if it is a relationship you are thinking about renewing or repairing, there was value in that relationship at one time. So the question would be how important is it for you to regain that connection?
Is it more important to be right? Is it a matter of forgiving or being forgiven? Can you even remember why the relationship fell apart to begin with? And, if so, is that worth hanging on to? Perhaps it was just a matter of going separate ways.
You realize you want to make amends…now what? It might be helpful to remember why you had this relationship in the first place. What happy memories do you hold? How did you initially meet this person? What is valuable about this relationship for you?
Think about what you want to say, leaving blame, shame and judgment at the door-this goes for yourself as well as the other person. Remember the times of shared smiles and laughter. Remind yourself of what this person taught you and how they made you feel when you spent time together.
Telling someone you want them to be a part of your life can make you feel vulnerable and awkward but it can also make you feel joyful and valued. It’s important to remind yourself why you are doing this. It is for YOU. And it is equally important to remember, you have no control over the outcome, although deep down, of course you want it to be favorable.
Now, take a deep breath, reach out and contact them.
Still hesitating? Fast forward and think of your future self, reminiscing… Are you feeling disappointed that you missed an opportunity? If that is the case, then you need to take action now.
Step forward with love. Don’t look back with regret.
